Mindset and Executive Coach, Speaker, Podcast Host, Meditation Teacher and Creator of The Pause Breathe Reflect Meditation and Gratitude App
I don't know who needs to hear this today... You don't need to say you're sorry. And you certainly don't need to say "sorry, not sorry," because that just sounds snarky. 😊 Of course, sorry works when you've done something hurtful, disrespectful, or that violates someone's values because it helps the healing process begin. And sorry has value when empathy is needed. But you don't need to over-apologize or say you're sorry for being human - this is the first rule of our Pause Breathe Reflect community. In other words, you don't need to apologize for your emotions, your voice, or not having all the answers, to name a few. So instead of saying, "I'm sorry for getting emotional," you could say, "Thank you for creating a safe space to share how I'm feeling." Instead of saying, "Sorry I'm late," you could say, "Thank you for being patient." It's helpful to remember that there is always space to think about what we wish to say next. For many, saying sorry is a habit, and you can create a healthier one when you become more thoughtful about the type of ripple you wish to put into the world. The first step is usually awareness and understanding what situations bring forward more apologies and gaining an appreciation of the root cause through a contemplative practice like mindfulness or, potentially, therapy. Next, offer yourself grace and accept that you're a perfectly imperfect human. You're not alone, and many of us over-apologize. Next, develop a new approach, and find an encouragement or accountability buddy/partner to support you. It's perfectly okay to say sorry when needed, and it's healthy to stop taking the blame when you don't. Not everything is your fault. Remember, You can do hard things! You've got this! And if you want any support, please reach out. #leadership #confidence #mindfulness #hbaimpact #empathy
Love your insight on this. Thank you for your words! ❤️
Reframing in the positive always teaches us that every experience happens for a reason… to learn about ourselves instead of attacking and feeling defensive. Blame, Shame and guilt is an unhealthy cycle of the inner critic.
I can’t wait to be patient 😂🤙🏽 always the best Michael
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1yExcellent insights! The words we choose shape the way we think and ultimately the way we live. This is the application of mindfulness to "right speech" in a little different way than the traditional, and it is so useful and impactful!